The Change Process
In this episode, leadership coach Beth Wonson talks about the challenges of the change process and the steps for managing it. If you try any of these steps, which we hope you do, please send us an email at email@example.com and let us know how navigating change shifts for you.
Today I want to talk about change and the change process. So often we feel like change happens to us versus we are intentional participants in a change process. And I want to help us to kind of shift how we think about that. When we feel resistance to change, what's actually happening is that resistance is a signal that either we aren't ready for the change or we're feeling powerless in the change. I believe people don't resist change. I believe people resist feeling powerless in change. When you consider change, here's an important truth for you to think about.
We may be collectively experiencing change, all of us, but as individuals we get into the flow of any change in our own time. So how can you be individually intentional to help yourself when you're feeling resistance to change? These are the steps that I recommend you take.
Avoid comparing yourself to others
Now remember I talked about even though we might be experiencing a collective change, everybody is entering the flow of the change at a different time, at a different pace and with a different perspective. So avoid comparing yourself to others.
Identify what the feeling is that might be creating a block for you.
Instead of just going with what I think is kind of a cop-out statement, which is, "I don't like change", look below that and think about, am I feeling anger? Am I feeling sadness? Is there a fear that's coming up for me? What am I afraid of losing in the change? And answer those questions for you yourself. Spend some time on that.
Identify any stories or assumptions that you're making out about the change.
Typically 90% of them may (or may not) be true. Seek more information in any of those stories or assumptions versus allowing them to put you into fight or flight mode.
Find a few single strings or threads within the bigger change that you can actually take action on.
This could be asking curious questions, checking out your assumptions, identifying a few small action steps, finding an area within which you have strengths and talents to contribute, or finding a partner or a collaborator to help you.
Be transparent about what you're feeling.
But at the same time, communicating what steps you're taking yourself to help move you from a place of feeling stuck or sad or uncomfortable to a place of action.
Notice and acknowledge your progress.
Change gets more comfortable. The more we engage with it versus resistant change happens every minute of every day, all around us. Just remember it's not the discomfort and change the fear of change that trips you up. It's the resistance to change and not paying attention to what's going on inside you as you move through the change.
If you try any of these steps, which I hope you do, go ahead and send us an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and let us know how navigating change shifts for you. Talk to you soon.